ALONE A BRANCH IS EASILY BROKEN. TOGETHER, BUNDLED INTO A BUNCH IT IS NEAR IMPOSSIBLE…
Lately I have received several messages from Step Mothers that are at their wits end. I sense their desperation and I hear their pain through their words. We ALL have been there. These are ladies that are not giving in or giving up, but are frustrated. Our hearts carry so much love for our families that we want an instant solution to the troubles. I so wish that I had the perfect words to piece their fractured hearts & families back together. The truth is, there isn’t any magical answers that can instantly make things better. Time, hard work, and tons and tons of patience is what it takes to be a Step Mom.
When I read the quote that I added to my photo I thought it is the best description of our lives. We have to accept that we can not change our world alone. We can’t “make” the kids like us. We can not have a positive relationship with the birth Mother if it is one sided, and we can’t make the in-laws fall in love with us either. We can cast little pebbles every day though. Leaving flowers on the in-laws front porch. Making sure the kids school lunch has everything in it they want. Using clear communication with the Mother. By casting a few stones everyday, we will create ripples. At the time they may seem like no big deal, but they miraculously grow – a little at a time. We set off a chain reaction of events. One act of kindness will lead to another. It may seem like forever, I know…but just keep casting stones.
The more we grow the more in awe I am of how many beautiful, courageous Step Moms we have gathered in one spot – and I just want to keep right on growing. I have cast my stone out there in the world and you are all my ripples :). I just want you to know that you are not that single branch that is twisting out in the wind. If we gather together, we can’t be broken – we will all support one another. If you are having a great day – let us know and we will celebrate with you. A not so great one…ya we’ve been there…how can we help? You, yes you, are the reader that could make a difference in someones life. Thanks for being here and if you haven’t heard me say it before – Welcome!
~ Amy Elizabeth
Thanks for reading. I appreciate everyone of you – without you I wouldn’t have a reason to write so when I say “thanks” that is heaped with a ton of gratitude!