Step Mother is one of the most difficult titles to carry, as well as the most rewarding. I don’t know if there is a better scenario for the term “double edged sword.”
Not everyday is going to be perfect. You won’t win all of the battles, in fact you may lose more often than you win. You are going to hurt. You are going to cry. You are going to experience anger in a new way that you never thought was possible. You will feel helpless, powerless, confused, and lost. At the same time you are going to be filled with love, pride, and joy. You have been given the gift to mold and shape a child in this world. You will set the example as to what a positive role model is. Being a Step Mom is going to bring you both hardship and joy. The choice is yours as to what you will focus on.
You are not alone. There are millions of us and we have all gone through it. We could focus on the ugly stuff that threatens to sink our souls – or – we can focus on the highlights in our lives. We all deal with a lot of the same heartaches so it is easy for us to commiserate together over those. Our individual successes are different and a little more varied. Those are the moments we need to talk about and celebrate together. It is difficult at times but it is up to you to focus on the gifts that being a Step Mom brings you. Those little treasures help us stay in a positive frame of mind no matter what is hurled at us. If you are in an auto accident, you could either focus on your car getting smashed, or you could focus on the relief that you are safe and your car is now repaired. Peace will be found when focusing on the positive, rather than the negative.
The gems that carry me are almost like video clips of special moments that I would be lost without. The first genuine hugs I received from my boys. You know the kind that are just a little tighter and last a little longer. Every time my husband thanks me for being such an outstanding Mother to his children. His eyes well up with the love he carries in his heart. There are so many mini successes with school projects, making dinners together, and pinky swear promises to keep little secrets that we have shared. I love being a Step Mom. I don’t always love the journey, but I wouldn’t have it any other way.
What are your treasures you carry with you to make it through the hard times?
~ Amy Elizabeth
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