Too Many Monkeys Jumping On The Bed…
That was one of my favorite little songs to sing as a small child. We would run around like crazy monkeys on playground equipment pushing each other off until there was one monkey left.
I am not sure if the last monkey standing really won though. The rest of us left on the ground were ego bruised and left with skinned knees. I never really appreciated the “winner” in the end.
Sometimes in blended family situations we don’t act much better than a pile of monkeys. We want our personal views seen, we want our rules followed, we want to be heard. As situations arise we start pounding on our chests trying to prove whose way is the better way. We get lost in the jungle of parents trying to out do each other. The reality is as long as we are all caring for the child, that is all that matters.
Normally there isn’t a right or wrong as much as there is strong opinions on how things should be done. Don’t get me wrong. I am right there with you. I often think my way is best and it can drive me bananas when the other household seems to do the exact opposite. When I feel my hair starting to stand up I take a step back. Is it really effecting my boys or am I taking this whole thing too personal?
A child cannot have too many people who love them. If they are being supported, feel safe, and know that they are being cared for, the “how”of that happening is not important. The child will succeed and grow into a loving adult if that is what they are surrounded by in both homes. That should be our ultimate goal as a blended family.
~ Amy Elizabeth