Some fairy tales never end…
Curious. How many of you are in your second marriage? What I mean is how many of you have been married, divorced, and now remarried with children? My guess would be the majority.
When I got married, the first time, I believed in the fairy tale. I really thought that a man would be my prince charming. He would love me, take care of me, and we would never fight. Our love would be eternal…but then I was forced to wake up. After my failed marriage I stopped believing in fairy tales and true love stories. I went as far as not watching chick flicks or reading romance novels. I thought they were all false advertising.
The magical thing that happened when I gave up on love was that I took the time to discover who I really am. My strengths, weaknesses, and desires all started to unfold. Previously I was too busy trying to live a fairy tale, the life I thought I was supposed to live. I didn’t even really know who I was. Without that how could I truly love someone else. I assumed I knew what would make me happy, but in reality I didn’t have a clue. After my divorce I stopped trying to be the ideal person, I became who I really was.
Little did I know, through that process, I became the ideal life partner for Mr. Magoo. When I wasn’t looking, in fact I almost passed him by, I started the first chapter of a lifetime of love.
I had to grow up. I was young and naive as to what love was all about. I pushed for marriage. Growing up in a small town, it was very normal for people to get married right out of high school. I really thought that if I didn’t go to college that was my next life step. At the same time I don’t have any regrets. I know what it is like to have loved and lost. I discovered that it takes two people to fall in love as well as two people to destroy it.
Now I have discovered that it isn’t too late for happily ever after. It is the strength of our love as a couple that keeps our family moving forward. I hope your love in you marriage is strong. As a Step Mother you have to shield yourself from a lot of negativity that comes from all different directions. My wish for you is that your man makes the strongest armor ever. That he protects you, comforts you, and without a doubt loves you until the end of time.
~ Amy Elizabeth